Breaking Free from the Coasting Phase


How to Pivot and Create a New Life


Are you feeling stuck or unfulfilled in your current situation but hesitant to take risks and make a change? Or maybe what once lit you up no longer feels energizing, but you don’t have a clue as to what is next so you keep doing what you are doing, even though you feel like it’s not a fit any longer? If any or all of these ring true, you may be in what I call the “coasting phase”.

Here’s an example:

Maggie was a 35-year-old client who has been working as a project manager for a major corporation for the past ten years. She used to love her job, but now she finds herself feeling unfulfilled and uninspired. She’s been going through the motions, doing just enough to get by, and finds herself daydreaming about the life she really wants.

She’s been in the coasting phase for a while now; feeling stuck and unfulfilled, but she’s not sure what to do about it. Maggie’s been holding onto this job because it’s familiar and safe, even though she knows it isn’t what she wants to do with her life. Maggie is hesitant to make a change because she’s not sure what she wants to do next. She’s comfortable in her current situation, even if it’s no longer fulfilling. Her inner dialogue tells her to stay because it’s safe and she’s lucky to have a job ( which can be true, but not a reason to stay in a career that no longer is a fit).

If you can relate to Maggie’s situation, then you may be in the coasting phase too. It’s easy to stay in a comfortable but unfulfilling situation, and it’s important to recognize when it’s time to pivot and create a new life. It may be uncomfortable and scary, but it’s worth it in the end. Don’t be afraid to take risks and make a change. You never know what new opportunities and experiences may come your way.

The coasting phase is a seductive place that allows us to feel safe and comfortable in our current situation, even if it’s no longer fulfilling. It’s akin to driving down a small hill and taking our foot off the brakes and steering for a short time. It’s easy to stay in this phase for too long, which can cause us to drift away from our “true north.”

The irony is that, even though we may feel less than enthusiastic about our lives, we often hang on to what we have because it’s familiar and we fear the unknown. But staying in this phase for too long can lead to feelings of irritability, resentment, and boredom.


So, how do we recognize when it’s time to pivot and create a new life for ourselves?


Here are some clues:

  1. You’re feeling stuck and unfulfilled.
  2. You’re going through the motions and feel like you’re just coasting.
  3. You’re holding resentments or feeling irritable.
  4. You’re bored with your current situation.

If you’re experiencing any of these feelings, it may be time to make a change. The pivot point is a powerful moment that signals that you’re ready to shift your life in a new direction. It’s the moment when you realize that you can no longer deny how you feel, and you’re ready to tell your truth.

But let’s be real – making a change can be uncomfortable and scary. It requires us to let go of what we’ve outgrown and step into the unknown. It takes courage to break free from our own versions of the status quo.


Here are some tips for navigating the discomfort and uncertainty that comes with pivoting:


Allow yourself to feel uncomfortable

It’s okay to feel uncomfortable and uncertain when making a change. In fact, it’s completely normal. Remember that discomfort is a sign that you’re growing and stepping outside of your comfort zone. Embrace the discomfort and trust that you’re on the right path.


Hold the tension of the opposites

When we’re at the pivot point, we’re actively straddling both our current world and the urge to create a new world. This can be uncomfortable, but it’s important to hold the tension of the opposites and allow new possibilities to emerge. Remember that two things can be true at the same time – you may be at your endpoint with some aspect of your life, AND you can actively explore what’s next.


Embrace passion and perseverance

Creating a new life requires both passion and perseverance. It’s not enough to simply follow your passion – you also need the willingness to do the hard work that comes along with it. When you have both passion and perseverance operating, you have the leverage to accomplish your stretch goals and create your Next Level Life.


Reflect and breathe

Take a moment to reflect on your deeper knowing. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and answer honestly from your heart space. What do you truly want? What’s holding you back? What’s your next step?


Remember, staying in the coasting phase for too long can cause us to drift away from our true north. If you’re feeling stuck or unfulfilled, it may be your signal to pivot and create a new life for yourself.


Copyright © 2018 Diana Long