What you say to yourself silently and how you speak about your dreams to others is very revealing. You’ll be surprised to discover that you may not be as positive as you think you are. By becoming your own “curious scientist”, you’ll find the places you are holding yourself back. You cannot achieve success if you are steeped in self-doubts, critical thoughts and lack of confidence when pitching our ideas to others.

The first place to start is with yourself. Pay attention to how you think. What thoughts are rolling around in your head? Are they supportive or are they destructive to your goals? Do you have compassion and understanding for yourself when you make a mistake? Do you learn from your experiences and reframe your mindset and your actions so you can move forward? Even if you are doing all the “right things’ to further your goals and dreams, negative self-talk will
slow your progress or completely take you off course. If you are stalled in your progress, it’s time to reflect and reframe.

Let’s take a deeper dive:

Inner Dialogue encompasses our innermost thoughts, beliefs, and self-talk, while Outer Dialogue comprises how we express our dreams and aspirations to the world.

Both are critical in shaping our lives. The thoughts we habitually think and the words we speak have a tremendous impact on the outcomes of our lives. They can make or break our dreams.

We create and experience from the exact level we are thinking and speaking. This can either serve us well or compromise our outcomes.


1. How to Reflect and Reframe Your Inner Dialogue

Our minds are always buzzing with thoughts, creating an endless stream of inner monologue. This voice in our head is incredibly powerful, shaping our reality from the subconscious level. Unfortunately, it often carries a negativity bias that acts as a roadblock to our dreams.

To master your inner dialogue, start by bringing awareness to your thought patterns. Observe what you’re saying to yourself. Are you encouraging your dreams, or diminishing them with self-doubt and criticism?

Many of us find ourselves in a tug of war, with our heart yearning for the dream and the inner critic whispering doubts. The inner critic often wins because it’s been the dominant voice for most of our lives.

It’s time to flip the script.

Once you identify the self-defeating beliefs holding you back, write them down. Be honest with yourself and keep track of how you think. You can only make change when you are aware. Now that you see how you actually have been talking to yourself you can challenge these negative statements and beliefs and replace them with an up-to-date statements that are in alignment with your truth and desires.

Once you get into the habit of self-auditing your own inner monologue, it becomes easier to notice your own negativity bias so you can quickly reframe and pave the way to your desired outcome.


2. How to Confidently Share Your Dream with Others

Once you’ve honed your inner dialogue, it’s time to master your outer dialogue. When it comes to articulating your dream to others, you will want to be clear, confident, and authentic. Speaking about our goals or pitching our ideas is another excellent way to self-assess how we truly feel about the goal. If you aren’t in total alignment, be sure to reflect and reframe so that you show up strong with new partners, allies, or supportive friends.

Here are some guidelines to help you express your dreams effectively:

  • Be clear and specific: Clarity breeds conviction. Be clear about what you want and why you want it. The more specific you are, the more compelling your vision becomes.
  • Speak with confidence: Confidence inspires trust and attracts support. When you speak with confidence, you’re not only convincing others, you’re reinforcing your belief in your dream.
  • Be authentic: Authenticity resonates. Share your dream as a deeply personal narrative that reflects your values and aspirations.
  • Speak with positivity: A positive tone can magnetize people to your vision. Speak about your dream as an exciting, fulfilling journey rather than a daunting task.
  • Seek constructive feedback: Be open to feedback when you share your dreams. It can provide invaluable insights to refine and improve your vision.

When it comes to communicating your vision, it’s important to remember that it’s not just about what you say, but how you say it. Practice mindfulness in your speech, choose your words wisely, and believe in the power of your dream.



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